I don't understand this issue about being 'born again'
There are those that relate the terms 'born again' with certain Christian organizations or churches that call themselves Born again Christians. From a biblical prospective, these terms do not refer to any specific church or denomination of people. Being born again is actually commanded to us by Jesus when he talks about our salvation;
"Most assuredly I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God." John 3:3
When Jesus said this to Nicodemus in this chapter of the book of John, He was speaking of the requirements for man to be saved. The Greek word for again is "from above" or "anew". To be born again is for a believer in Christ to receive 'Spiritual life'.
So how does one do this? First, we must understand that nothing we ourselves do can fulfil this. It is by the grace of God that we are saved (Eph.2:8). Being born again, is the work of the Holy Spirit. It, as scripture tells us is when a new creation of us (internally) is made. The old ‘us’ dies and we are ‘born again’ with this new creation. This does happen when we confess our sins and repent from them (have a change of mind and turn away from the particular sins), publicly accept Jesus as our Savior and announce our faith in Him which is the main purpose of baptism. It is this internal work of the Holy Spirit that is referred to as being ‘baptized by the Holy Spirit’.
Again, salvation is a gift from God. One which we do not deserve, but because of God's incomprehensible love for mankind, It is ours to receive. It's our choice................. believe in Jesus and be born again, or not;
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
It is also very important for us to understand that just saying we believe in Jesus does not fulfil this requirement. He tells us specifically;
Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. John 3:5
There is an enormous amount of controversy as to what this verse means. What does it mean to be born of water and Spirit? As the definition of being born with the Spirit is given above, it is the water part of this verse that has caused so much debate. Some argue that being born of water is referring to water baptism. Others teach that it is a reference to natural birth. However water is a reference to a necessary saving element that is used in many other scriptures.
For example, in chapter four of the book of John, Jesus comes to rest at a well and asks a woman to give Him a drink of water. In this conversation with the woman, Jesus explains His definition of water is the saving grace, the everlasting gift from God that saves us;
Jesus answered and said to her, “Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again, but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life. John 4:13-14
This water is the word of God. Jesus’ teachings that He has been doing during His ministry here on earth. So it is the in-taking of God’s word, through scripture, having a changed life, repenting from our old ways that causes us to be re-born at allows us to come into God’s grace of salvation. It is very important that we remember that none of our particular doctrines of saving works within any of our church denominations can save us. Going to church every week, saying particular prayers in a certain way or a specific amount of times. None of that will allow our salvation to be granted.
"In Him you also trusted, after you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also, having believed, you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise." Eph. 1:13