I am allowing the father of my children to move back in with us as he is ill and is homeless. My church found out and because of this, I am not allowed to partake in Communion. There is no sexual relationship between us and he has his own separate room. I was just trying to help. Is it right that my church is taking the stance? They are quoting scripture in Ephesians chapter 5 as their reasoning.
The scriptures that govern the sacrament of Communion is given in 1 Corinthians chapter 11. Some churches prohibit their members from partaking in communion based on the verse 27;
Therefore whoever eats this bread or drinks this cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord. 1 Corinthians 11:27
Similarly, some use the verses in Chapter 5 of Ephesians which reads;
But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not be partakers with them. Ephesians 5:3-7
If you notice, none of these verses have anything to do with the requirements for partaking in the Lord’s super. As it happens a lot of times, people take verses out of context and they try to apply it to their argument. This is a very common method of interpreting scripture, however it is absolutely wrong.
To examine these verses in their correct context, for the verses in 1 Corinthians, it is necessary to understand what the author is taking about when he says an ‘unworthy manner’. In talking with the people of the church of Corinth, the Apostle Paul was speaking about the manner in the way they implemented the Lord’s Supper. Some of the church members performed their own private communion service which would prevent others from partaking. Also, understanding the history of this church, they would have inappropriate parties at the time they would have this communion. This is the ‘unworthy manner’ in which these verses are referring about. Not referring to the way a person lives.
Similarly the verses in Ephesians chapter 5 are speaking about how we as a Christian should live our lives. Again, no reference to the requirement of partaking in communion service.
There is nothing wrong with the Father of your children living under the same roof as you. If you are not married, care must be taken that there is no further sexual connection to your situation as you stated is the case. As far as your church not allowing you to partake in communion because they think you are sinning, that is an unfounded judgement. Something they should not do. Do they check the moral standing of everyone before they allow them to partake in communion? We are all sinners and if it were a requirement to not be a sinner before you can take communion, none of us would qualified;
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23
I hope this response helps you. The bottom line is you need to examine your own conscious about why you are or want to partake in the service;
Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you are disqualified. 2 Corinthians 13:5